If you've not seen a counsellor or used a counselling service in the past it might be hard as to know where to start. I would recommend using two on-line directories :
Both of these directories are reputable with only qualified & experienced counsellor & psychotherapists.
However, don't just go and see anyone, give your therapy some thought and go with who you like the sound of and then also check their experience and qualifications. This is going to be a very personal relationship and you'll want to get it right. If you don't put something into finding someone to match you personally you will be doing yourself a discredit, and therapy may not work out how you'd hoped.
I have been counselling in Liverpool now for quite a few years and have a regular client base, I work with different types of people on many things like: anxiety, childhood, gender, relationships, and trauma.
Just in time for the release of Trainspotting 2, I embark upon training in Brainspotting (pt 1), I will also complete pt 2 in April. I went along to BSP pt1 with intrigue figuring I would learn a different technique - albeit similar to other eye movement therapies. After an intensive and alleviating weekend I discovered the profound and powerful changes Brainspotting can make on a personal level. Brainspotting is a great therapy and I have found it benefits my clients quickly with little need for the hard work of talking, challenging thoughts and creating a relational depth.
The idea of Brainspotting is that trauma/s leave imprints in the body, usually things like tight chest, a knot residing in the chest or stomach - sound familiar. Sometimes the imprint may even be on the body in the form of a rash of some kind.
Brainspotting uses eye position to target what needs to be healed. I found that as well as quickly working at a conscious level Brainspotting helps/processes/goes to a much more subconscious and unconscious level than taking therapy alone. I don't want to undervalue talking therapy at all, it is crucial to the therapeutic relationship, and this can create great learning and insight for people. This is why I now offer talking therapies and neurotherapies.
Behavior is basically the goal-directed attempt of the organism to satisfy its needs as experienced, in the field as perceived. Rogers, Carl (1951) Client-centered therapy
We do what we do to try and enhance our organisms needs. e.g. We go shopping so we can eat, because we get hungry.
This time of year is especially busy for me as a therapist. I see my diary become a sea of appointments to provide counselling sessions. For many it triggers emotions such as stress & loss. This impacts on people's relationships, which is one of the major prompts people to contact me. So Christmas Counselling - cheesy isn't it. So really it is just counselling and if someone uses this in the future you seen it here first Christmas Counselling ©. Anyway let's just stick with counselling, a place to get away from what's going on for a moment for you to focus on you and what you need to focus on, before you get lost and swept away with it all....
A therapist's journey is often a difficult one. The courses can often be grueling and an anxiety provoking journey of self discovery, couple this with the written/academic work, and then add having your eyes opened to what is going on around, you're in for a change, maybe one of the biggest changes you will see in life. As trainee therapist change, so do their relationships. A lot of people don't like change very much, and this can impact negatively on relationships. A trainee therapist learns about themselves and start to stretch and flex their person that had been dormant or left to dwindle, they may start to challenge the statusquo of relationships and not only their personal ones. I think that it is probably a nightmare at times - for all involved.
Once training has been completed and over 100 hours of voluntary work that has been scrutinized and criticized, it maybe time to look for paid work. Paid work in the therapy world is scarce, very scarce. What isn't scarce though is the amount of qualified and experienced therapists. It is not unusual for 100 people to apply for one job - which is probably only 21hrs per week and about 25-30k pro rata, and is a short term contract anywhere from 3-12 months.
This may all sound very negative, well it isn't. The reason people do therapy as a job is the love for it, it's certainly not for the money or the ease. We don't just sit in chair and listen, we are constantly thinking and empathising with our clients, we are trying to be as helpful as we can be, we are trying to be as present and engaged as we possibly can be. Sometimes I believe that we are trying harder to understand, than the people who sit in front of us. There will of course be a reason for this - our clients often come to use burnt out, or what the medical world call 'depressed'. So someone's depressed - don't possibly give them time and space to recover, we can't have that in our western capitalist society, give them drugs so they can get back to it as soon as possible and become more efficient for work at the same time.
Therapists can be like intimate best friends with their clients, without the bells & whistles of friendship - you wont be going a theme park together (unless you have a CBT therapist and you are scared of theme parks). A relationship with a therapist can feel one way and very boundaried - this is part of the reason it can be so helpful. The relationship should be a safe one , where clients can truly become or start to become themselves. Our clients can work to an ending in therapy whereby all issues are worked through, and they can continue with life. In reality many clients get to a point which is difficult for one reason or another, and end with their therapist without warning or explanation, this can be difficult for a therapist (we are human although we may seem a little odd at times in the therapy room), again there are reasons for this clients ending suddenly that the therapist understands, and if they don't understand, they try to understand, and try to work out why the ending occurred.
I wouldn't change my job for the world it constantly challenges me, and I never hear an identical story or meet identical people. I also get to meet amazing people.
Chris Rudyard MBACP
Professional, experienced counsellor/psychotherapist in Liverpool