I have been counselling couples now for quite a few year. What I have found is that when both people in a relationship still care deep down about each other, then given the space and the right environment then they can improve their relationship - even after affairs. Couples tend to have less sessions than individuals averaging about 4 sessions, which might be equivalent to about 4 meals out at a restaurant, is it worth it? You decide.
If you've not seen a counsellor or used a counselling service in the past it might be hard as to know where to start. I would recommend using this online directory :
However, don't just go and see anyone, give your therapy some thought and go with who you like the sound of and then also check their experience and qualifications. This is going to be a very personal relationship and you'll want to get it right. If you don't put something into finding someone to match you personally you will be doing yourself a discredit, and therapy may not work out how you'd hoped. I have been counselling in Liverpool now for quite a few years and have a regular client base, I work with different types of people on many things like: anxiety, childhood, gender, relationships, and trauma. Just in time for the release of Trainspotting 2, I embark upon training in Brainspotting (pt 1), I will also complete pt 2 in April. I went along to BSP pt1 with intrigue figuring I would learn a different technique - albeit similar to other eye movement therapies. After an intensive and alleviating weekend I discovered the profound and powerful changes Brainspotting can make on a personal level. Brainspotting is a great therapy and I have found it benefits my clients quickly with little need for the hard work of talking, challenging thoughts and creating a relational depth.
The idea of Brainspotting is that trauma/s leave imprints in the body, usually things like tight chest, a knot residing in the chest or stomach - sound familiar. Sometimes the imprint may even be on the body in the form of a rash of some kind. Brainspotting uses eye position to target what needs to be healed. I found that as well as quickly working at a conscious level Brainspotting helps/processes/goes to a much more subconscious and unconscious level than taking therapy alone. I don't want to undervalue talking therapy at all, it is crucial to the therapeutic relationship, and this can create great learning and insight for people. This is why I now offer talking therapies and neurotherapies. Behaviour is basically the goal-directed attempt of the organism to satisfy its needs as experienced, in the field as perceived. Rogers, Carl (1951) Client-centred therapy
We do what we do to try and enhance our organisms needs. e.g. We go shopping so we can eat, because we get hungry. This time of year is especially busy for me as a therapist. I see my diary become a sea of appointments to provide counselling sessions. For many it triggers emotions such as stress & loss. This impacts on people's relationships, which is one of the major prompts people to contact me. So Christmas Counselling - cheesy isn't it. So really it is just counselling and if someone uses this in the future you seen it here first Christmas Counselling ©. Anyway let's just stick with counselling, a place to get away from what's going on for a moment for you to focus on you and what you need to focus on, before you get lost and swept away with it all....
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