ANGER MANAGEMENT
Anger is a very normal experience that we can all feel from time to time. Anger can be a result of feeling let down, hurt, or unheard.
Anger is often due to bereavement/loss, stress, or some kind of hurt or trauma. It's important that your therapist has a good understanding of all these too, and where the roots of anger can come from, often we are just seeing the tail end of something when there are outbursts, of course anger isn't just about outbursts.
Anger can be displayed in your:
Anger can be detrimental to self, a lot of people with high levels of anger often shoot themselves in the foot which creates even more frustration, and shame and so the anger cycle continues. Often good people don't want to be or behave in angry or aggressive ways, it's like an unconscious reflex - it just seems to come up from nowhere sometimes - and we are left feeling powerless to it. For you, it probably feels like it's a part of you that is angry, there is more to you than your anger, there is something loving and caring inside you, otherwise, you would not be looking into this.
There are positives to anger too, though, it can signal that something isn't right for us. Anger can feel so powerful, it can motivate us to make changes to our life.
Dr Gabor Mate a world-leading physician has found that repressed, unexpressed, or unresolved anger can be the cause of physical illness, from cancer to autoimmune conditions and many other chronic diseases: See here: https://drgabormate.com/book/when-the-body-says-no/
What can you benefit from?
I'm not here to stop you from being angry, and I'm not here to patronize you by telling you to count to 10, "chill out, calm down" or breathe.
When people are able to process and work on underlying causes of anger, they often find that their anger reduces. This results in feeling healthier, more in control and an improved sense of well-being.
For over 6 years, I run a specialist anger management service funded by the NHS. I found talking therapy and CBT were somewhat limited for a lot of people, so I learned new, exciting ways of helping people recover...
Anger management isn't really a 'course', it's not something that can be taught so much, it's more about releasing and healing something else. The way I help people with anger management is to help them heal what needs healing, get the cause of it, and really heal it so that anger rarely needs to raise its head.
Will it help you live longer?
Well, I can't guarantee it, but research has shown that those with higher levels of stress and anger die younger, and those who have repressed anger live for a shorter amount of time again.
Your relationships will probably improve, people don't tend to really enjoy spending time around angry energy, it taps into the survival mechanism - fight-flight-freeze, so most people will choose to walk away.
Anger is often due to bereavement/loss, stress, or some kind of hurt or trauma. It's important that your therapist has a good understanding of all these too, and where the roots of anger can come from, often we are just seeing the tail end of something when there are outbursts, of course anger isn't just about outbursts.
Anger can be displayed in your:
- Thoughts - you may ruminate dwelling on things that are getting to you
- Emotions - as well as anger, you may feel guilt or shame for getting angry
- Behaviour/s - throwing, slamming, shouting
- Physical sensations - chest pains are common with anger, stomach problems with repressed anger
Anger can be detrimental to self, a lot of people with high levels of anger often shoot themselves in the foot which creates even more frustration, and shame and so the anger cycle continues. Often good people don't want to be or behave in angry or aggressive ways, it's like an unconscious reflex - it just seems to come up from nowhere sometimes - and we are left feeling powerless to it. For you, it probably feels like it's a part of you that is angry, there is more to you than your anger, there is something loving and caring inside you, otherwise, you would not be looking into this.
There are positives to anger too, though, it can signal that something isn't right for us. Anger can feel so powerful, it can motivate us to make changes to our life.
Dr Gabor Mate a world-leading physician has found that repressed, unexpressed, or unresolved anger can be the cause of physical illness, from cancer to autoimmune conditions and many other chronic diseases: See here: https://drgabormate.com/book/when-the-body-says-no/
What can you benefit from?
I'm not here to stop you from being angry, and I'm not here to patronize you by telling you to count to 10, "chill out, calm down" or breathe.
When people are able to process and work on underlying causes of anger, they often find that their anger reduces. This results in feeling healthier, more in control and an improved sense of well-being.
For over 6 years, I run a specialist anger management service funded by the NHS. I found talking therapy and CBT were somewhat limited for a lot of people, so I learned new, exciting ways of helping people recover...
Anger management isn't really a 'course', it's not something that can be taught so much, it's more about releasing and healing something else. The way I help people with anger management is to help them heal what needs healing, get the cause of it, and really heal it so that anger rarely needs to raise its head.
Will it help you live longer?
Well, I can't guarantee it, but research has shown that those with higher levels of stress and anger die younger, and those who have repressed anger live for a shorter amount of time again.
Your relationships will probably improve, people don't tend to really enjoy spending time around angry energy, it taps into the survival mechanism - fight-flight-freeze, so most people will choose to walk away.
