PHILOSOPHY & APPROACH
As a counsellor I am human first. I am open to you and your experiences. My fundamental approach to counselling & psychotherapy is Person Centred - founded by Carl Rogers. I believe that as well as you being the prime driving force behind therapy, the client/counsellor relationship is of great value too. Recent research has shown that it is not only the 'approach' or 'technique' of a therapist that is helpful but the relationship they form with their clients.
Person Centred Counselling theory was not designed to treat specific problems, but rather any difficulty that one may encounter. Counselling is about working primarily with you 'the person'. So I work with you, and what you bring to therapy, to help you to deal with this.
Modern therapies I am trained in are BSP (Brainspotting) CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy), EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation Reprocessing), EMI (eye movement integration), and NLP (Neuro-linguistic programming). I use CBT as a way to inform my practice and to see what is going on for you, but don't use it 'per se'. I may sometimes suggest exercises that you can do outside of therapy to help you get the results you want.
I integrate an existential stance - which I understand as - my approach being unique to you and I, and giving you the space to experience yourself more fully, and make choices. Existentialism may mean accepting things as they are, and also finding meaning in what's happening. I use philosophy as a way of working with people, which helps to educate both of us, about you, your life, and your unique experience.
I believe experiences in our lives can leave a lasting effect, no matter how old they are. In the right environment and with the right practitioner, we can be given the space to change our relationship with these experiences by looking at them.
I will work with you at your pace, it is you who knows what it is that hurts, and what experiences are inside. It is my role to accept you as you are, accept and explore your experiences with you. My aim is to be attuned, engaged and present in your session.
As a counsellor, my learning is continuous, I am always looking at developing my awareness and finding new ways of working, whilst remaining grounded in my professional approach. I offer a helping relationship that is caring, collaborative, sincere, confidential, empathic & non-judgemental. Counselling cannot help you with just one aspect of your life, but can contribute to an overall healthier 'self'.
I will work closely with you, to ensure you are getting the most from your therapy, and going in the direction you want, so you can gain more control over your life.
There is a great deal of pain in life and perhaps the only pain that can be avoided is the pain that comes from trying to avoid pain. RD Laing.