PHILOSOPHY & APPROACH
As a counsellor I am human first. I am open to you and your experiences. My fundamental approach to counselling & psychotherapy is Person Centred - founded by Carl Rogers. I believe that as well as you being the prime driving force behind therapy, the client/counsellor relationship is of great value too. Recent research has shown that it is not only the 'approach' or 'technique' of a therapist that is helpful but the relationship they form with their clients.
Counselling theory was not designed to treat specific problems, but rather any difficulty that one may encounter. Counselling is about working primarily with you the person. So I work with you on what it is you bring to therapy to help you to deal with this.
Modern therapies I am trained in are BSP (Brainspotting) CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy), NLP (Neuro-linguistic programming), and EMI (eye movement integration). I use CBT as a way to inform my practice and to see what is going on for you. I may sometimes suggest exercises that you can do outside of therapy to help you get the results you want.
I integrate an existential stance - which I understand as - my approach being unique to you and I, and giving you the space to experience yourself more fully, and make choices. Existentialism may mean accepting things as they are, and also finding meaning in what's happening. I use philosophy - not psychology as a way of working with people, which helps to educate both of us, about you, your life, and your unique experience.
I believe experiences in our lives can leave a lasting effect, no matter how old they are. In the right environment and with the right practitioner, we can be given the space to change our relationship with these experiences by looking at them.
I will work with you at your pace, it is you as a person who knows what it is that hurts, and what experiences you have buried - that are ready to emerge. It is my role to accept you as you are, accept and explore your experiences with you. Overall I am not a passive counsellor who just sits, listens and nods. My aim is to be engaged and active in your session.
As a counsellor, my learning is continuous, I am always looking at developing my awareness and finding new ways of working, whilst remaining grounded in my professional approach. I offer a helping relationship that is caring, collaborative, sincere, confidential, empathic & non-judgemental. Counselling cannot help you with just one aspect of your life, but can contribute to an overall healthier 'self'.
I will work closely with you, to ensure you are getting the most from your therapy, and going in the direction you want, so you can gain more control over your life.
I quote on a blog on research on counselling research theory. If you are studying counselling, or have a greater interest in counselling and psychotherapy it might be worth having a look at my links page.
There is a great deal of pain in life and perhaps the only pain that can be avoided is the pain that comes from trying to avoid pain. RD Laing.